Nov. 12, 2008
Happy 4th Birthday, dear Christian!
Posted in Encouragement and Other Thoughts
This past Christmas, we had a birthday cake for Jesus with a candle for each child to blow out (my niece and nephew were not in a candle blowing mood apparently). *sigh* I just love this picture!

Today would have been Christian's 4th birthday. I know they won't be having a birthday cake in Heaven, but if they were to have one, I imagine that Jesus would be the one to help him blow out the candles this year.
While we miss Christian in a mighty way (oh my, do we ever miss him!), we do not grieve as those who have no hope!
And where does my hope lie?
It lies in Jesus Christ and the gift of salvation that is offered through the giving of his life on the cross for our sins and His victory over death when He arose on the 3rd day. That is how I KNOW that I will see Christian in Heaven when I die!
When I was 13 there was a specific time and place that I realized I was a lost sinner, asked God to forgive me of my sins, and gave my life to Him. My eternal destination is not determined by scales that balance my good and bad when I die-- surely I could never live up to that no matter how "good" I am! Salvation is a GIFT. All we have to do is believe, repent and accept Jesus as our Lord and Saviour. That is how I KNOW where my eternal destination lies. Heaven is a REAL place, y'all!!! God doesn't just say it in a book to make us feel better.
Where will you spend eternity? We are not guaranteed tomorrow. And we certainly don't know how many days we have on this earth-- it might be 44 years or maybe just shy of 4! I sincerely pray that each of you would make a personal decision to give your lives to Jesus Christ. Christian and I would love to meet you there-- walking the streets of gold, worshipping God, rejoicing in a (REAL!) place where ...God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away (Rev. 21:4).
I'm not sure what else to say about Christian's birthday. I do ask for your prayers for my family. I know that God will carry us through it and that His grace will even bring us joy in the midst of our tears today.
If joy isn't easy to come by for you today, FIND IT. Choose to be joyful, choose to be thankful! I am. I am very thankful for this day 4 years ago that Christian was born. And I am very thankful for this day-- TODAY-- 4 years since Christian was born. I would do it all over again for the joy of having been his mommy. Even when it hurts.
And if you really can't find joy, maybe you're trying to fill up an emptiness all by yourself or with other things? I encourage you to look up, look to Jesus... He is the only one that can give you the peace that you seek. Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee. (Isaiah 26:3)
Okay, quit reading this and go enjoy some time with your kids!!! Not just next to them, but with them. Savor the moment, savor the day. Be thankful for the little messes, constant interruptions, and even dramas that may play out from time to time. The things that you will miss the most one day are always the little things, rarely any single big thing.
And because I just love pictures of my littlest man, here are a few of my very favorites.
Love,
Marshie
PS I added Christian's slideshow to my sidebar if you'd like to see more pictures =========>
Comments
Nov. 12, 2008 - Happy Birthday Christian....
Posted by Anonymous
Thank you Marsha for your words and wisdom. Truthfully I have not always had a relationship with God and yet your posts have spoken to me in a way that has helped me more than you'll ever know. You are in my thoughts and prayers daily. May your family find comfort in the many sweet memories you have of your dear Christian today.
God Bless you always,
Stephanie Freeman
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by CoCo
I needed that Marsha! You always know how to put into words how I feel. I love you my sweet, sweet sister. I will hold you, David, Dash and Tank close to my heart today with constant prayer. I will also find joy among the tears while I remember the sweet, funny and ALWAYS entertaining little man Christian was. I love yoU!!!
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Hugs
Posted by Karin @PassportAcademy.com
Hey Marsha,
I love what you wrote. Your faith is encouraging and inspiring. As someone who needs to be reminded that I can CHOOSE my attitude I took special note of this post and hopefully have imprinted it on my heart.
My baby girl sat for the first time on Christian's birthday.
I like that we can now share a special memory on the same day!
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Great job Mommy!
Posted by JacqueDixonSoulRestES
Christian would be proud of this post.
There are so many lost and hurting people in this world, and if you can allow the LORD to draw them on this day, then Praise the LORD.
That being said, my heart will joyfully ache for you all today.
HUGS and LOVE to you all
LOVE the photos!!
Jacque
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Jocelyndixon
Oh Sweet Marsha (and drews family) praying for you and thinking about you all today. We have been giving such a gift, and death is just a phase we go through. PRAISE JESUS for defeating death and giving us eternal life!!!
(((((((((((HUGS from Indiana))))))))))))))
love you sweetie
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Jennifer Wallace
Oh Marsha I know that you are living by faith through the power of God; through His strength. I'm thankful His strength is perfect! Each time I read your words I am blessed. I love all the pics what a blessing God has built in a memory for his children. I pray your mind is filled with little memories that bring smiles to you; things you haven't thought of about your sweet boy in a long time.
Hugs.....
Jen
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Joy
Happy Birthday Christian and mommy.
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Annemarie
Knowing you is one of the biggest blessings in my life.
I am praying for you, David and the boys a little extra today.
~Annemarie
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by letshomeschool
Amen. Thank you for your testimony. Your family is in my prayers.
Jean
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Marsha
Posted by Sammy4meowz
What a beautiful message. I was up in the middle of the night, just laying in bed. I couldn't fal back to sleep. So God put you and your family on my heart and I prayed. I will be praying for you all day and always! I love you and so wish I could I hug you today!!!!!!! (((***))) There is my over the internet hug for you! I am so thankful that you have hope! Praise God!!!! He is good and His love endures forever!!!!!!!!!!
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Nov. 12, 2008 - (((Marsha and David)))
Posted by Tami
Thank you, Marsha, for sharing where your hope lies. I will be praying for your family today.
Tami
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Brandy
Happy Birthday Christian. Marsha~ you are your family are in my thoughts today as well as every other day.
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Birthday
Posted by Anonymous
He seems so healthy may I ask what happened? I am so sorry to hear your loss. May our God fill your hearts with all joy and peace that passes understanding.
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Anonymous
Praying for you today, dear Marsha! Praying that papa comforts you in a very real and tangible way today! XXOO
Barb Cash
FIAR Boards
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Sweet Memories
Posted by homeskoolmom
Happy Birthday sweet Christian!!!!
Great post to remind us what is truly important!
Big hugs to you and yours today
Love,
Christine
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Sisterlisa
Oh sweetie!!! I just prayed for you all.
"Dear Lord, I ask that you would wrapped your gentle loving arms around each individual member of this family and protect them and comfort them during this time. I pray for a hedge of protection to fight back an attack from the enemy. I pray that your power and strength will be so thick and strong around them as they BEAM your light to the lost and dark world. Lord use their testimony to reach the lost and that we will see Heaven gain souls out of this difficult time in their lives. I thank you God that Christian is with you and all the mighty angels. Thank you that he is awaiting his family and that one day they will be reunited again. Thank you Lord for this family and for how you're using them to bring glory and honor to you. In Jesus' Name, Amen"
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Anonymous
Happy Birthday Sweet Boy, you are missed.
Thank you for your message, Marsha. Makes me want to drive to TX to just give you a big hug.
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Nov. 12, 2008 - praying for you
Posted by Dianne-Bunny Trails
What an amazing blessing that God would use you to encourage others in the midst of your own pain and struggles. Thank you for your precious words - I definitely needed to hear them today.
I am praying for you and your family - and will be throughout today. I know that God will carry you through and be all that you need. I look forward to the day that we're ALL with Jesus, celebrating, rejoicing, and worshiping - no pain, no separation, just eternal togetherness and joy!
love,
dianne
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Anonymous
I love that you took the time on this precious day to remember others. How awesome of you. You never know who will read this post, word travels fast in blogland. You could totally have touched someone that doesn't know Jesus.
I'm proud to know you. :)
Emily
thelearningneverstops.blogspot.com
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Praying for you...
Posted by Jaybird
I woke up with you on my heart. Now I know why!
Also, when I typed in my name up there, I hit "n" instead of "b" so it said it was from "Jaynird" and I almost left it, knowing you would crack up!
Hugs from Missouri,
Jaybird (subtlycatty dot blogspot dot com)
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Anonymous
What a wonderful testimony! Thank you for sharing your heart and God's gift of Salvation! I pray this day will be a good one for you -- filled with happy memories of the time you shared with Christian!
God Bless you all!
Teresa
Va Queen Bee
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by JenIG
Your entire family is so precious to me. We are celebrating Christians life (and his NEW life in heaven!) today.
love you SO much!
http://Jeneralities.com
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Anonymous
Praying for you Marsha. What a testimony you are. I am sure God is well pleased for the glory you give him.
Susan
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Anonymous
Praying y'all feel God's comforting arms around you today.
Tonya in KS
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Alright, I'm bawling like a baby now
Posted by tn3jcarter
I pray that God will just hold you all extra close today. Thanks for sharing where your hope comes from and the reminder to cherish your children. For some reason your boys have always reminded me so much of my boys ~ especially Christian and my youngest. While so many people might wonder "how much longer" my little guy is going to act like the baby of the family, I know now more than ever, what a gift that is and savor every precious second of it.
I still wish that I could do as good of a job as you do with taking pictures of all the boys, but that's something I'm still going to have to work on! :o)
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Nov. 12, 2008 - HUGS!
Posted by SuperAngel
Marshy and all the Drews, my thoughts and prayers are with you today! I know we miss Christian so much, but we are rejoicing that he has gone where we all strive to go.
What beautiful thoughts that you have shared, Marshy! I am so blessed by you and your strength through this! Thank you for showing us that we can have joy through any pain!
Love you marshy! I hope that today is filled with amazing memories of Christian and his precious life and of thoughts of the day you are reunited with him!
HUGS!
Love,
Amanda
http://superangelsblog.com
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Nov. 12, 2008 - In Celebration of Christian
Posted by Anonymous
Marsha,
I vow today to hold my boys closer, cherish them more, enjoy the hard stuff and hug them longer. I think of your family of five everyday and am reminded to be a mom like you. Thanks to God for using Christian to move me to be a better mom. Thank you Marsha for your inspiration through Christ :) I needed this today as I have been struggling and longing for a little baby for over a year. Thank you!
rprmsr@gmail.com
www.reedsoftn.blogspot.com
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Praying for you today...
Posted by sprittibee
3.5 years is too short for earthlings... but thankfully we have eternity in our 'real' immortal bodies when we close our eyes here. Praying that you find much joy in remembering Christian today... and that you find much joy in knowing that you'll all be reunited. I know you already do... your faith is inspiring.
Love you Marshie! By the way, we'll be in Houston Nov 22 through 29. ;) We need to meet up and have a cup of Joe. ;)
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Buckeyeblog
Oh, I'll bet those wonderful blue eyes are shining so bright today! Happy birthday, Christian!
Blessings from Ohio, Kim Wolf<><
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Nov. 12, 2008 - hey there
Posted by amada
As I was reading your post, reveling in its beauty, and then on to scanning the different comments posted, I was thinking about posting and I went back up to the message and noticed that the black and white photo has colored candles it it!! Not to sound totally insensitive to this beautiful post, but you are so cool to do that photo editing trick! How did you do it? It seriously looks so real!
Loving you my dear friend on this day and every other,
Amy
Trujillo, Peru
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Nov. 12, 2008 - They looked unto Him and were radiant...(Ps. 34)
Posted by EEEEMommy
You are radiant.
You continue to be a living example of the Truth of Romans 5: 1-5
"Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ,
through whom also we have obtained our introduction by faith into this grace in which we stand; and we exult in hope of the glory of God. And not only this, but we also exult in our tribulations, knowing that tribulation brings about perseverance; and perseverance, proven character; and proven character, hope; and hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us."
Faith, Peace, Grace, Hope, Perseverence, Proven Character, Hope, Love...I can see all of these in you.
Keep hoping; you will not be disappointed. Keep persevering. Keep pointing others to Jesus; God is doing amazing things in you and through you.
I am praying for you all today!
Grace and Peace,
Angel
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by KarenW
Happy Birthday to Christian. I can just see his smile as he sits at our Savior's feet. Praying for your family today.
http://www.woodward-family.com/karenwoodward/blog.html
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Anonymous
Wow, I think that giving a Birthday cake for Jesus is a great idea!! I have never thought of doing that before. Thanks
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Anonymous
Dear Marsha:
I stumbled across your blog about a month ago, and was shaken and moved to tears by your video tribute to your son, Christian. It changed me as a parent. Since reading your story and watching your video, I have had a deeper appreciation for the beautiful and fragile gift the Lord has given me, deeper than I have ever felt. Time with my children has never been more precious.
I lost touch with your blog, but your story stayed in the back of my mind. For some reason, I searched for your blog today, and I'm so glad I was able to find it. I don't know what compelled me to do so, but when I read that today is Christian's birthday, I had to check the date several times. I was so surprised at first, but now realize that surely, it was no coincidence.
I feel compelled to write to you to thank you for sharing your thoughts here. It amazes me that someone who has experienced more pain than I can even imagine still has the power within them to strengthen me, a stranger, and better my life and faith at a time when I needed it most.
Thank you. You and your family have blessed mine in more ways than I could tell you.
I will keep you in my prayers.
Sincerely,
Angela
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Nov. 12, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Anonymous
This is an amazing site! I think that it is a great thing that you are doing, and I admire your strength. Wow! I pray that you save souls of many, you have a great testimony. Thank you!
Christina Cooper
If I Only Had One Wish
www.aframeofmindart.com
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Nov. 12, 2008 - prayers
Posted by Katrina
What a beautiful post. Your faith in the Lord is so encouraging, I don't even have words that can express just how amazing it is to read your thoughts and beliefs. Praising God in Christian's honor.
Praying for you as I type this.
www.byhisgoodgrace.blogspot.com
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Nov. 13, 2008 - Happy Day with big hugs
Posted by Anonymous/Donna
My oh my....what a beautiful way to remember that precious boy's birthday! The pictures are wonderful....Your witness is strong and I think that God will use that testimony to bring someone to Christ dear friend. Love you - love your family - and blowing kisses to the birthday boy. -The McCann's
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Nov. 13, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Fiffi
Marshie...... what beautiful words.
Happy Birthday sweet Christian!! I can just picture him laughing and having an awesome time with his Heavenly Father!
Love to you all xx
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Nov. 13, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Tiany
Praying for you and your family today!!! We enjoyed the sweet sideshow.
(((Hugs)))
Tiany
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Nov. 13, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Anonymous
Praying for you my friend :)
We love you
Nikowa
knowledgehouseacademy.com
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Nov. 13, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Anonymous
oh Marsha... what ADORABLE pictures, and sweet memories you have! I haven't the words...
I'm so glad we got to facebook chat last night.. love you, my beautiful friend..
jess
we2r1preston.blogspot.com
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Nov. 13, 2008 - Birthday Boy
Posted by Lisa V.
What a precious little boy! Happy Birthday to Christian. Hugs to you and your family as you miss holding him in your arms. That's a blessed hope that we'll get to see him again one day.
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Nov. 14, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Michelle Bentham
Marsha,
I can so relate to how you are feeling. The first year after my son died I asked, "I wonder what birthdays are like in heaven? ...or, Even if they celebrate them."
Anyway. What you said about choosing joy is so important, and I will be praying for your family. As you have shared in your grief journey - holding onto Jesus has been all I have had since my son's death and what a time of growth and intimacy it has been. I would not change one minute of my journey because I know my God's Word is true and He is so real to me - even more so than ever before. Not everyday felt like such a blessing, but I lived in the blessing of even not knowing all the whys, what ifs, and fors...
This year, my third year of grief has been uncompromisingly joyful. Joy returned around my son's 20th birthday in March - (for me that day is still his birthday he just is in heaven.) I have made a tradition of honoring people I love with gifts for his birthday - the first year it was my girls and husband, the second year my parents and this year, Randy Alcorn sent me 25 free books about Heaven that I was able to give away to my grief support group for grieving parents. I could hardly contain the joy I felt inside this year.
I tell the women in my Grief Recovery Class that this is the first year I have had joy that I didn't have "hunt down and kill" before I could find it. Joy returned unabated and praise and worship ushered in healing on the 3rd anniversary of my son's homegoing. You are in my prayers and my heart beats in bittersweet harmony with yours. Aching for my baby while rejoicing in the Lord. You are precious. Be encouraged and know Isaiah 60:20 is true - one day you will find "The days of your mourning shall come to an end."
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Nov. 14, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by foxvalleyfamily
Marsha,
I know that you don't know me - but we have many 'blog friends' in common, and so I have been following your blog every since your beautiful boy went home to Jesus.
My own little girl turned 4 yesterday, too - and so this entry REALLY spoke to my heart this week.
Happy Birthday sweet little Christian!
May Jesus give you an 'heavenly hug' on your special day!
(And may he bless your family with peace, joyful memories, and hope for the days to come when you are all re-united for a glorious celebration!)
God Bless,
Michelle
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Nov. 14, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Anonymous
Those are beyond sweet photos! I haven't been blogging much lately, but I think of and pray for your family often. Everytime I drop by you are such an encouragment to me Marsha. Thank you for that.
Hugs and Love,
M~
http://faithhopeandlove-fhl.blogspot.com/
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Nov. 14, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by sj_larkins@yahoo.com
I'm sorry but I read your blog for the first time today and there seems to be no information as to what happened to Christian. I tried to e-mail you to ask you privately about this great loss but I wasn't able to send it because I don't know what my "HTTP server" is (my computer tech husband didn't even know.) So now I'm sad AND frustrated. I was moved by your Nov. 14 post and all the pictures are beautiful. But he looks so healthy in all of them, what happened?
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Nov. 15, 2008 - Hiya Marshie!
Posted by Deedeeuk
I'm still off line and have been for three weeks now, but you have been heavy on my heart and in my prayers for the past week - now I know why! Still lifting you all up to the throne. (((HUGS)))
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Nov. 16, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Anonymous
The first time I read this, I just couldn't collect my thoughts to leave a comment. Everything I wrote just sounded... well tinny and hollow. I couldn't find the sincerity and warmth I wanted to express.
So I'm trying again to leave and comment and just admit that there are no words. You and your family are lifted in prayer.
Happy heavenly birthday, Christian. I know this is your best one yet, even as your family misses you 'somethin' mighty'.
*hugs* to you, Marsha dear.
Darcy
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Nov. 17, 2008 - Hello
Posted by jugglingpaynes
I read about your darling boy at 40winkzzz and just wanted to let you know your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
Peace and Hugs,
Cristina
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