Henryteachers said that she hoped my next post would be titled "Glad", so here it is!  How could I not be glad to have such great friends? I had 18 comments saying Happy Birthday and words of encouragement and prayer. Thank you everyone. While I admit, things are far from smooth, it's does make me feel a little better to know people out there care. This morning has been really rough. Ds(10), the one with OCD/ADHD did not sleep again last night (at least he let me sleep this time!) and so he is a mess this morning. One of the ways his OCD comes out is compulsive talking. If he has something he wants to say, he has an overwelming urge that he HAS to say it. For the longest time we thought he was just rude/ disobedient or it was his ADHD (excessive talking is part of that), but this is different. He actually feels the NEED to talk. He feels like he will explode if he doesn't. This is a brain glich. The signals that tell his brain "enough" are messed up. Luckily, certain types of therapy and some meds can improve his ability to know when it is "enough". But right now we have a child that talks excessively (ADHD) and compulsively (OCD). Then when you add having no sleep for days in a row, that speech becomes mean and nasty. His poor brother gets the brunt of it. Luckily, as his ADHD meds start kicking in, things get better (still not great) and he gets more tolerable to be around. I would just send him to his room, but he can't be far from us. Because of some of the other issues, he needs pretty consistant supervision. I guess it is a good thing that the computer is downstairs in the room next to where he spends most of his day! Ok, sorry this was not suppose to be a complain post, this was suppose to ge a "glad" post. So, I'm "glad" for all you guys, you've been great! I'm "glad" that my husband is really trying to deal with our son's issues. He grew up in a pretty strict house that disobedience just plain was not tolerated and so he has a tendency to be really strict (a little too strict). He has had a really hard time separating the disabedience for the mental condition, but he is getting a lot better at it. He is really trying to understand what is going on and he will be going to the therapy evaluation with me next week. I'm also "glad" that we switched the computer room from upstairs to downstairs at the beginning of the year or I would not be able to get on it so much. This has been an outlet for me. I can't get out of the house as much as I would like. Besides the pure exhaustion that I feel and the fact it takes hours just to get my kids out the door, we also have to spend a lot of quiet time at home or it messes my son up. That is probably why he is acting up so much right now. This weekend was really busy and we were on the go most of the weekend. It just throws him through a loop when we are constantly "going". So I'm planning on staying in until Friday so we can rest up. Tomorrow is suppose to be rainy anyway. But Friday, I hope to get out.... I hear the is a used curriculum sale going on that day. Can't miss that!!!! 
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May. 16, 2007 - Untitled Comment
 Posted by daredhead
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Happy Belated Birthday. My brother's birthday is the 15th as well. I haven't been on here in a while, so I've been missing a lot!
I'm sorry you are having such a tough time. I know what it is like to go so much without sleep. It just messes you up in every way! I'll pray your little guy gets the help he needs and that the therapy is successful.
God bless you, Lynn!
Stacey
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May. 16, 2007 - Just a thought...
 Posted by msmarla
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Although we haven't had the same trouble you are having, my oldest was an insomniac around the time he turned 10 and I couldn't figure it out for the longest time. What I have learned is that preteen boys have this incredible need to use up energy. I wonder if you could start him running or swimming or chopping wood. We did all of the above and it really worked wonders. He was way too tired to tease his siblings or stay up till all hours. At 15 he recognizes this need himself and finds his own outlets. It is also a great source for getting things done that I'm too tired to do (or don't have time for), and he feels better for having contributed in a productive way to the family instead of getting into trouble.
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May. 16, 2007 - Hi
 Posted by Kinley
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I can relate to some of this. In fact I sent you e mail about it.
Kristy
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May. 16, 2007 - Untitled Comment
 Posted by 2peter318
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Thank you so much for sharing your "glad" list. It must be so hard. You are in my prayers. I'm glad you have an outlet like this. I know the Lord has used you and so many others in my life in the short time I've been blogging. The Lord is awesome in the things He gives us. :)
JoAnn
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May. 16, 2007 - Untitled Comment
 Posted by midwifemom
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My oldest is the same way on the talking issue. He does not shut up. He gets mad if you interrupt him to tell him something like take out the trash or go get your brother or it's dinner time. However he constantly interrupts people when he wants to talk. The other day we had a long conversation about how rude it is to interrupt and about letting other people have a turn to talk.
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May. 17, 2007 - Glad
 Posted by jenn4him
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Oh Lynn, it is so hard to know you are hurting and to be so far away! Know that you are being lifted up. Thank you for sharing these things with us, for your honesty. Those of us with special children can know only a little of your struggle. This week I've had some thoughts of giving up and sending Grace back to school next year. Not that I would, but they are thoughts that enter my mind. She is having a hard week so consequently my week is harder. And I have not always responded in kindness and understanding. In my weak moments, I want to send her far away and let someone else deal with her because I am not capable. That's when I know I am the one who needs a time out! We did have one good moment yesterday. We read this really neat living picture book and then decided to draw a picture like ones in the book. It was a completely stress free moment where we were enjoying being together. Sorry this is so long and sorry for rambling!
Jenn
Jenn
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May. 17, 2007 - Untitled Comment
 Posted by homeschoolingmommaof4
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Happy Belated Birthday! ((((Lynn)))) things must be tough. It's great that you can still have things to be glad for. I'll be praying for you and your family. Have a great week.
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May. 17, 2007 - Untitled Comment
 Posted by Canadagirl
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I am happy to be apart of the encourager's group for you. (0= I am starting to understand what type of challenges you are dealing with. Have you also looked into food issues with your ds. I have heard a lot about food can make a difference with children that have these circumstances. I will pray for your family my SSiC. Big ((HUG))
God Bless my SSiC
In Him<><
-Mary
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May. 17, 2007 - Untitled Comment
 Posted by hugs4Him
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I can relate to a lot of what you are saying. My oldest is autistic, non verbal, but very "verbally" stimmy (lots of noise). My 2nd, mild aspie, can be a hyper talker. My daughter can also do that, & has a limited attention span. The baby, & many of the others, all have multiple food allergies & issues. Life is definitely not "normal" here & never will be & I rarely get out except to do health food shopping! Blessings, Michele
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May. 18, 2007 - Late Birthday
 Posted by Anonymous
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Sorry I missed your birthday! I have been spending more time outside and less time on the computer. I hope your week in has yielded much rest and calming. Enjoy the curriculum sale, ours was Tuesday.
Melissa
(kaysmarmey)
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May. 18, 2007 - Untitled Comment
 Posted by henryteachers
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The title of your post put a smile on my face! I'm glad blogging can be an outlet for you to help encourage you and get you through the rough times as well as the support you're getting from your husband! That is great!
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May. 19, 2007 - Happy Belated Birthday!
 Posted by denisebp
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I'm so far behind, but I did want to wish you a Happy Birthday.
I also can relate so well to what you wrote about your life with your son...the lack of sleep, not being able to go out, taking forever to get ready when you do have to go out, and paying the consequences of the break in routine afterwards. I wish we lived next door to each other!
Praying that you get some answers with the new therapist.
I finally ordered some of the books you recommended. They should be here Monday. I can't wait to start reading them...in my free time! lol
Oh, and I also wanted to say that our husbands are very similar. My husband has a tough time separating disobedience from the disorder, too, and I feel that he's too strict at times. I know how frustrating it is (believe me, I know; I'm here all day with the boys!), but I have to remind him that the boys often can't help the way they act. I'm far from perfect, and I sometimes don't respond well, either, but I think that's why it's important for both my husband and I to keep reading and talking to the doctors so that we can better understand the best way to deal with the boys.
Denise
Edited by denisebp on May. 19, 2007 at 4:12 PM
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May. 30, 2007 - Untitled Comment
 Posted by PumpkinsMomma
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:( I feel like a really bad friend for missing your birthday
Sorry.....I haven't been good at going to other's blogs recently. I can't believe I haven't stopped by for 2 weeks....well actually, once I came by and read a post and didn't have time to comment....
I hope that the last few weeks have been good for you. Hugs,
marie
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