When Eric (I am his mom) told me that he was hosting the carnival, I immediately thought about the following subject. It always saddens me when I hear about parents giving up on home education because they’re afraid that their children aren’t learning enough or aren’t at the right grade level. I hope this post will be an encouragement for those of you who struggle with fear of what the future holds for your less-than-perfect student.
In the 21 years that I have been homeschooling (yes, I started homeschooling the minute the doctor thrust Claire into my arms), I’ve been amazed at how the children get everything they need to be “educated.” To me, learning is not as hard as the educational establishment makes it. What sometimes takes a year to accomplish in a classroom setting can be done in a month’s time at home. A child who is far behind suddenly leaps ahead (sometimes a whole grade level). A creative home environment – free from the public school’s standards – allows them to follow their bents and interests, virtually unhindered by outside distractions, and because of that, I feel that home education is a priceless gift for today’s generation of children.
One challenge I faced early in my journey of discovering what it meant to be a home educator was learning to be patient and allowing each one of my children to develop at their own pace. I’ll use reading as an example. I’ve taught all of my children to read. My first child learned to read at the age of five and just took off. My second child learned to read at the age of nine and began reading fairly easily out of the Bible (The Bible has some big words). My third child was the slowest and struggled well past the age of ten. We plodded along through 100 Easy Lessons until it finally clicked. I thought she would never get it and there were times I had to bite my tongue, but we took our time because we had time – a precious commodity nowadays. After all, who and what was I measuring her against? The public school system? Her age level? Or an artificial grade level? She never felt bad about not being able to keep up with someone else. She developed at her own pace and with a terrific self image. Instead of dreading reading, she couldn’t wait to read the “big” books all by herself. At the age of eight, my little one is coming along beautifully. She is just about ready to take off. Every child is different and uniquely gifted, so it doesn’t pay to compare them with their siblings or anyone else for that matter.
Still, another challenge I’ve faced is how to understand my children’s individual learning styles. Eric is an auditory/ kinesthetic learner. He loves making noise and moving things around in his hands while he’s thinking, so it can be really challenging when I’m reading to the younger ones and he walks through the room talking to himself or making what we call “NBNs” – necessary boy noises. Knowing that he’s an auditory learner has helped him to understand himself and curb his behavior without making him feel that he’s weird or different. He’ll probably make a living with his voice.
My little one is kinesthetic, too, so giving her things to manipulate with her hands and making sure that she gets to move around during the day is very important. Two of my girls are visual learners, and they’re very content to sit still for hours, working on projects, reading, or writing. Understanding learning styles and finding out which ones your children are dominate in can be challenging, but over time (usually around 9 or 10) it becomes apparent what their strengths and weaknesses are, and everyone in the family can accommodate the way each child learns.
The only drawback to home education that I can see is that you have to become a student again. What do I mean? Well, you have to study your children daily. You have to figure out what makes them tick. You have to discover the unique giftings that the Lord has planted within each one of them, and make sure that you’re faithful to provide the fertile soil needed for growth. You have to relearn some of the things you forgot since you attended school, and now you even understand them! You have to get organized and disciplined and practice what you preach. And anything you call your children to do, you have to model yourself or else its just hypocrisy and you’ll lose their hearts. In other words, you’ve got to change! The hardest thing for me has been to change. But I can honestly say that the changes that have occurred in my life have been by God’s grace and mercy, mostly as a result of trials – not instantly acquired, but slowly over the years. "He gently leads those that have young." Isaiah 40:11
Finally, you’ve got to analyze what your definition of real education is because the choices you make today will determine the paths your children take tomorrow. Most assuredly, the journey down the road of public education will produce the expected results: children who are politically correct and can’t think for themselves. Is that what you really want?
To me, home education is a walk of faith in the school of life. I don’t know what tomorrow, next week, or even next year will bring. Maybe there will be new opportunities, and God will do something really spectacular and open up a whole new area of learning for one of my kids. I love it when He does that! If you had told me a few years ago that my oldest daughter Claire, age 21, would be a certified therapeutic riding instructor or hired as a full-time journalist (without a college education), I would have been at a loss to tell you how that could happen. If you had told me that Eric, age 16, would love graphic design and writing about his faith as much as I do, I would have said, “Really? I didn’t see that happening.” If you had told me that Elizabeth, age 12, would be able to bead, crochet, and cross stitch better than I can, I wouldn’t have believed it. And if you had told me that Anna, 8, would willingly pick up after herself and love to clean the bathroom, I definitely wouldn’t have believed that at all!
It keeps us in a state of awe, when despite our fears and doubts about our children’s ability to learn, God causes them to walk in the good works He has prepared ahead of time. It keeps us walking by faith to home educate one year, one month, and even one day at a time. It keeps us humble when we are brought to our knees because we just can’t do this “homeschool thing” one more minute. That’s when God shows us what real education is – total dependence in Him.
In my opinion, the biggest challenge for homeschoolers will always be to listen to God’s voice above the world’s and being faithful to work alongside Him to fulfill His perfect will for each of our children’s lives. It is our biggest challenge, and our greatest reward.
Blessings to you and your family,
Jill
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