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Thursday, March 8, 2007 - Husbands
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I feel like I have been such a downer lately. Sorry for all you who get tired of the woe is me. I am feeling a little more encouraged today. I owe some of that to my husband. We had a good long talk tonight and I was able to communicate to him how I was feeling and what discouraged me the most as I have been trying to see where the anger is coming from. While I don't know the root of it (except for sin) I can tell you what makes me crazy and that is the disobedience of my children. Then I start thinking of all I need to do and I get overwhelmed and it goes downhill from there. I was talking with him about ALL that I need to do with the girls and the things I need to teach and work on he pointed out that they all seemed to be symptoms and I was trying to put a bandaid on it instead of working on the root issue which is.....
my relationship with the girls. His thoughts are that if I worked on the relationship some of the symptoms just may work itself out on its own. That is not to say I don't continue with the training/reminding/discipline that needs to happen, but the focus isn't so much on that behavior as it is really spending time with the girls, nurturing the relationships, trying to creat a bond with each other and having fun together. I am feeling encouraged again that maybe I can do this. I am glad because boy it was looking pretty bad there in my mind lately. You really wouldn't want to be there.
This week we have worked on some of this (spending time together) and I really feel like it is the best thing to do. We have done chores together. We have all sat and watched and listened as Peanut read her first words today and screamed and yelled in excitement for her. We have done math together and read alot together. It has been good. Next week I hope to do more, like play games and puzzles together. We didn't get to that this week. My house is cleaner than it has been in a while. I am looking into getting some more fun games. What games do you like to play (for ages 5 and up)?
Well, I just noticed that I titled this entry "Husbands" and have only mentioned hubby once. My point is that my husband loves me and our family and when he listens and encourages me I feel his love. He has great insight and advice. Most of all he is so patient with me. He simply is the best for me.
He had an interview today. We are praying for this job for him. He was so excited in talking to me about his interview, yet he is holding back a little because he doesn't want to be disappointed if they don't offer him a job and if the pay isn't close to what he is getting now. Will you please pray that the Lord gives him the desire of his heart? He wants to leave his current job. It has been more than difficult. If he doesn't get the job he will have to stay where he is at and try to work on acceptance. It will be hard. I was just told today that at the end of the month his boss is likely going to put him back on that crazy shift. I am just not going to think about it.
I have told you that I get to see my sister in LA at the end of the month, but I didn't tell you that hubby is taking two days off for it and will be watching the girls on his two day scheduled holiday. He is so nice to me.
Now- I have figured out his birthday present. He never reads my blog so I guess I can tell you what it is.
We are going to eastern Oregon to have an evening on a Mystery Dinner Train. Then we will spend the night there. The girls get to stay with grandparents. It all worked out so quickly and perfectly that I knew this was what I should do for him. The train is an old fashioned one. The dress and mystery is western with cowboys etc. The dinner is 4 courses. It should be very fun. Some friends went and loved it-she gave me the idea. (Hey Tia, I will be in your neck of the woods)
Susan |
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Friday, March 9, 2007 - Untitled Comment |
| Posted by sagerats |
Girl, you had better call me! I've been on that dinner train and it is fun.
Isn't it strange how a man you thought for sure wasn't paying attention to anything, can hit the nail on the head about so much? My Dear Man does it to me all the time. At least that's how it is in my house.
Abiding in the Vine! |
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Friday, March 9, 2007 - Untitled Comment |
| Posted by jillconnelly |
I have been on a mystery dinner train before - great fun!
I've had recent attitude and anger issues with my oldest (6 yr old). I feel as though she hates me sometimes. This is how I felt towards my mother and I refuse to let the cylce repeat itself. I've taken some tips from you - thank you very much!
One thing I started doing a couple weeks ago is every night after she is asleep, I kneel beside her bed, put my hands on her, and pray earnestly for our relationship as well as our relationships with the Lord.
Also, I was wondering if it would be ok for me to post your photo of the completed snowflake craft (HSB Blog) on my blog? I'll also link to it. I put together some mini unit study ideas together for snowflakes and thought your craft fit perfectly. If you get a chance, let me know if I can post your craft photo |
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Friday, March 9, 2007 - Untitled Comment |
| Posted by Rebeca |
The dinner train sounds great! I hope it's a very special and fun time together. I hope these days with your girls are good ones. It's so easy to let other things take precedence over relationships, even when we're with them all day. Erik and I have been so busy the last week with the house projects and I've really noticed how it's affected Peregrine. Yesterday went much better- I did some training with him early in the morning, then kept him closer to me, either helping with our chores, doing something specific with his sister, or me spending time reading to him. The attitude improvement was huge, and I found I wasn't frustrated and irritated all day!
I do hope today goes well, and that you all have a great weekend together.
Rebeca |
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Friday, March 9, 2007 - Untitled Comment |
| Posted by Anonymous |
AND my neck of the wood Missy!
I did the train last Fall.
Call me would ya?
Jodi |
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Friday, March 9, 2007 - game suggestion |
| Posted by Anonymous |
| One of our family favorites is "Chatter Matters" by Mattel-it says 8 and up, but we started playing it when Caleb was 5 or 6 and its not difficult...it really brings the family closer, lots of questions to stimulate discussion and silly games! The best part is the winner chooses the celebration activity-ice cream together, an outing, a favorite treat etc. blessings to you as you love on your little lambs! as Moms we can think of what Jesus said to Peter, when he said do you love Me? Then feed my sheep...Warmly, Brenda |
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Friday, March 9, 2007 - Untitled Comment |
| Posted by nsremom |
I think you sound a lot like me. When I feel like the house is in disarray and the kids are fighting worse than normal and my husband and I aren't communicating.......I get angry.
I yell way more than anyone might guess because I lack self control. You're not the only one! And it's funny how the huband/wife relationship is the source of the river and the children are like tributaries. If I'm filled up and loving my husand than it trickles down to their individual streams. It's NEVER the other way around.
Something I did a few weeks ago was write the following on my fridge.
GOD
JIM
KIDS
It seems so simple, but I would put my kids above him and/or get angry at him that my kids have to sacrifice because of his dreams/goals. For instance, we've had to move and change all of our lives for him. If I sit and mull that over? it makes me angry.
BUT, if I put him 2nd anyways.....when it truly is about submitting to what's best for Jim? BAMMO. IT works wonders on my attitude towards him, which affects my attitude towards my kiddos.
Sorry to rant on and on. Just know it's a cycle. It's also not spoken of in polite circles, so this blog is super to get it out there. I've talked about the struggles with my husband to women and they looked at me like I was sacreligious. Like, "How dare you admit that you fight with your husband!"
well, where there's love there's passion.
The absence of love is indifference. |
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Saturday, March 10, 2007 - Untitled Comment |
| Posted by SandBetweenMyToes |
Well, I guess I should have read your blog before I emailed, but the offer always stands. Sounds like you have a great husband. I am so thrilled he is supporting you and confirmed for you that stepping back and just spending fun and productive time with your girls is good. And, I am so glad it has had an effect this week. You are right about " keeping it up". My biggest struggle with keeping it up is when I let my own desires get in the way, and then I don't desire to spend that time with them.
As for games, we have tons of them. We like Cadoo, Cranium Family Fun, Great States and Great States, Jr., Smart Mouth (it's a word game), Clue, card games, Monopoly, Scattergories, Jr., checkers, Battleship, Herd Your Horses, Allowance. A lot of those are mostly geared toward 8 and up, but many times younger ones can play, or I let Daniella "help" me play. One fun one for younger ones is "Don't Wake Daddy". It will keep you awake that's for sure! She also likes Monopoly, Jr. , the Herd Your Horses, and the Great States, Jr.
I am praying for your husband's job. I sure pray he doesn't have to go back to a difficult schedule.
That is so great that you get to visit your sister. I hope it is refreshing.
Hope you have a wonderful restful weekend.
Letitia |
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Saturday, March 10, 2007 - Great post! |
| Posted by AHappyHome |
I, for one, would be an utter complete disaster if it weren't for my husband. He's very mellow and keeps me from freaking out over every little deal that happens in our lives. I'll be looking forward to hearing about a great new job for your husband!
Blessings,
Keri |
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Sunday, March 11, 2007 - Untitled Comment |
| Posted by drewsfamilytx |
Sounds like a fun and romantic present! *I* want to go! :-)
You are blessed to be able to talk to your husband like that. It is so wonderful to have a spouse that loves you AND balances you!
Praying for you, dear friend.
Love,
Marsha
PS Games we love: Checkers, Chinese Checkers, Candyland, Monopoly Jr., Scrabble Jr., Connect Four, Memory, and good old fashioned Hide and Seek! |
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Thursday, March 15, 2007 - Untitled Comment |
| Posted by http://craftapple.wordpress.com |
Hi Susan,
I've been there recently - where all I felt like I was doing was getting irritated with the kids. Then one day, the house was a mess which meant that my brain was disorganized. I spent the morning cleaning and listening to the boys play with eachother. It was nice to clean and talk to them, without the cloud of school hanging over us. Things have been better - and we didn't even fall behind like I thought we would.
The kids and I play the Veggie Tales memory game. They love it and have started to beat me! :o)
Linda |
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