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She can sweep, can she not?
Posted on June 11, 2008
I was over at one of Meg16's blogs called "The Man I Seek" and thought about some of the character qualities I wish to see in my husband. "Hmm, let's see here. Well, a Christian, of course. A very strong Christian, which covers a lot."
I started going down my list. It had been a while since I've been specific, for obvious reasons. But I needed to refresh my memory.
"Number one...hmm. Good worker. Likes to work. Yes, the Jack-of-all-trades type. And of course he must love children. And reading."
I continued my list, and stumbled across a very terrible thought. "How could this be?" thought I, "What if he's not perfect?!"
"What if he doesn't like music? What if he's reckless with money and doesn't like my family?!"
Just as these dreadful thoughts came, another one more deplorable than all the rest presented itself. "What if his parents don't think I'm perfect?!"
"Good grief, I'll never be ready to marry!" I could imagine it now, his father forbidding our marriage because I had not memorized all the minor prophets and hand-embroidered a 20-foot alter cloth for the church like his eleven daughters had.
So then and there I decided to cut back on the silly regulations I had set for him. "I need to be more sensible with myself and actually memorize a few recipes!"
Getting down to the good ole' wholesome basics of living has been on my mind for a while now. It doesn't help that we just got a second computer! ::squealing with joy:: But that's good thing!
I reassured myself that I wasn't completely inept. I also had to list off the things I need to work on:
I love reading God's word and studying it, although it is hard for me to stick with any one particular study.
I can bake and cook and fry (with a recipe - I can read and follow directions).
I can do the laundry when asked. But not on my own initiative.
I like cleaning - especially dusting and sweeping and all forms of kitchen drudgery!
Making beds and de-cluttering rooms are fun! Not that I do either often...
I know the basics of gardening and yard care.
Of course I'd rather not get into the "personality quirks" which we know are actually sin-issues. But in short, selfishness. Isn't that what all of my problems start with? I like to think I'm the most important person around! What I need to focus on more than anything is making my life all about Christ.
Well, when it comes down to it, whether I get married or not, it is all about Christ and His glory, isn't?! So if I burn the pancakes and bleach the color load, I'm still God's girl, and nothing can snatch me out of His hands. I just need to strive to follow His Word in all areas of life.
With thoughts on marriage, motherhood comes to mind. I am content with babysitting, but I can hardly wait for my own little ones!
Prayers and advice appreciated!
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Posted at 1:24 PM on June 11, 2008 by Eyebright
Oh, Breezy, reading your blog is simply delightful! I read this post to my Mom, the part about the minor prophets and the 20-foot alter cloth, and she laughed so hard. It was so funny.
I haven't done it for a while, but my Homemaker-In-Training posts were pretty much about the same thing. I realized, and still do realize, that there are many household chores that I don't know how to do, or just don't do. Like you said, I lack initiative. I don't run around and do chores just because they need to be done. It is not necessarily the chores that I need to work on, it is the gumption to get up and do them!
I hope this doesn't make me sound really lazy, even though I am!
I have never actually made out a list of what qualities I would want in my husband. I think that is partly because I would think I would want one thing, but really didn't, or didn't know what I wanted at all! I think I will be like you, and just focus on what I need to work on to be a good wife, mother, and friend.
Sorry for the long comment!
Have a very bright, very cheerful day!
Miss Eyebright
I haven't done it for a while, but my Homemaker-In-Training posts were pretty much about the same thing. I realized, and still do realize, that there are many household chores that I don't know how to do, or just don't do. Like you said, I lack initiative. I don't run around and do chores just because they need to be done. It is not necessarily the chores that I need to work on, it is the gumption to get up and do them!
I hope this doesn't make me sound really lazy, even though I am!
I have never actually made out a list of what qualities I would want in my husband. I think that is partly because I would think I would want one thing, but really didn't, or didn't know what I wanted at all! I think I will be like you, and just focus on what I need to work on to be a good wife, mother, and friend.
Sorry for the long comment!
Have a very bright, very cheerful day!
Miss Eyebright
Advice
Posted at 9:42 PM on June 11, 2008 by watalulu
Hi Bre. My advice about little ones (the little little ones) is: sleep when they sleep. (dont worry about the house)
Also, they need to cry so much, eat so much and poop so much. Sometimes they need to do just those things.
Give them a nice strong name. And spell it normal!
Also, they need to cry so much, eat so much and poop so much. Sometimes they need to do just those things.
Give them a nice strong name. And spell it normal!
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Posted at 7:31 PM on June 12, 2008 by Ellie
Hi! I found your blog today from the Girlhood Home Companion. I too am 17, and have been homeschooled.
This is awesome! I totally agree with all you said. You've put into words some of my very thoughts! It's nice to know that there are other girls out there with the standards like mine, not very many girls have any standards at all!
I look forward to reading more on here.
Truely,
Ellie
This is awesome! I totally agree with all you said. You've put into words some of my very thoughts! It's nice to know that there are other girls out there with the standards like mine, not very many girls have any standards at all!
I look forward to reading more on here.
Truely,
Ellie
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Posted at 7:47 PM on June 12, 2008 by SimplyMe
Oh my gosh, it was so nice to read that! I would hate to say this to anyone, but honestly, you sounded just like me! Only wittier. Ma mere rather encourages me to have a long list of obligations (right down to his proffession!!) for my future mate, but I worry more that no one will approve of me. I know I have time to improve..but I'm a worrywart! I need to learn to trust God in everything, because...I don't have control over anything. Including my future mate and his descisions (or his father...I don't even know the major prophets! Egad!).
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Posted at 5:52 PM on June 24, 2008 by Meg16
Dear Breezy,
I have to admit that I have been in the same boat as you lately. I really struggle with selfishness and living my life totally for Christ. One thing that I did the other night was to write out a prayer to the Lord asking Him to have first place in my heart and giving Him my desire for marriage. I know that I am going to have to do that multiple times (unfortunately that desire doesn't go away), but it helped me to remember that God is in control.
Praying for you, dear Sister in Christ.
Meg
I have to admit that I have been in the same boat as you lately. I really struggle with selfishness and living my life totally for Christ. One thing that I did the other night was to write out a prayer to the Lord asking Him to have first place in my heart and giving Him my desire for marriage. I know that I am going to have to do that multiple times (unfortunately that desire doesn't go away), but it helped me to remember that God is in control.
Praying for you, dear Sister in Christ.
Meg
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