Aug. 8, 2008 - Rice and Beans
Am I the only one who gets tired of picky kids in the house??? I was sure that *I* would never raise picky kids; they would simply be expected to eat whatever was set before them, and that was that. Breakfast and lunch are rarely a problem, but at dinner time it seemed that there was (is) always someone that is unhappy, someone that just "isn't hungry", or something to complain about. We have tried different approaches: disciplining for complaining about the food, clearing the table and making them go without until the following meal, and even then we often saved their plate and gave them the same thing at the following meal, etc.
Still, the problem persisted. It's not like we make them eat liver and brussel sprouts at every meal! I began to realize that they just have too much. Too much variety, too much abundance on the table, too many options to be thankful for just anything they have available to eat. We are SO thankful for the Lord's provision for us, and yet it is so easy to start complaining when things come too easy and not be thankful for our "daily bread". The Lord even warns us in Dt 6 that this is our tendency: "When the Lord your God brings you into ... a land filled with large, flourishing cities which you did not build, houses filled with all kinds of good things you did not provide, wells you did not dig, and vineyards and olive groves you did not plant - then when you eat and are satisfied, be careful that you do not forget the Lord, who brought you out of Egypt, out of the land of slavery."
So, I had an idea. We set aside a day in which we ate only rice and beans, for breakfast, lunch and dinner. No snacks inbetween, and only water to drink. I started talking it up a week in advance, telling the children that we were going to learn to be truly THANKFUL!!! YAY! We were going to experience what the majority of the world live on every day, and we were going to remember that SO many people in the world don't even have that much, and would be ecstatic if they did! We were going to be in missions training - learning to eat anything, so that one day if the Lord should call them to another country, they would not have to wonder or worry about what they would eat, because they were learning to eat anything! It was going to be GREAT, I kept telling them!
Well, the evening before our rice and beans day, Joshua didn't "feel like" eating his supper. I told him that was fine, but he would not eat anything else until the following day, and that would be rice and beans only. He said that was fine, so I cleared the table.
The next morning, I served rice and beans for breakfast and the two older kids just picked at it, eating nothing. I told them that was fine, but there would be nothing else until lunch! And then I cleared the table. We left the house to go garage saling a bit later, and Joshua started to complain about not feeling well. I told him it was because he had not eaten, and that he should have taken the opportunity to eat when he had the chance, and that he would have another chance at lunch. He stayed in the car during all of the garage sales, and even dozed off several times - VERY unusual for him in the AM hours. He was really starting to look lethargic by the time we got home for lunch.
So for lunch, I served more of the same. This time Dominique ate well, as did Israel and I, but Joshua STILL just picked at his plate and said he wanted to go to bed! I couldn't believe the stubbornness! He does not usually take naps anymore, but I do require him to have a quiet time in the study and read while the other two are napping. But this day, he went straight to his bed and slept for about three hours!
When he woke up, I asked him if he wanted his plate? He said no. I was really surprised, because *he* is the one that usually eats rice and beans without any problem when we serve them for dinner. I was not anticipating this kind of battle. I was starting to feel bad, because he was really looking pitiful, but it 's not like I was starving him! His plate was right there available whenever he wanted to eat it! Instead, he laid on the couch the rest of the afternoon, dozing off now and then, until supper time.
That is when I discovered his plan. He figured he would just withstand the hunger for the day, because he could eat something better tomorrow! When I informed him that we would have Day 2 of Rice and Beans if he didn't eat them today, he decided to eat supper, and BOY did he eat supper!
That night with Daddy, we read the account in Exodus about manna in the wilderness, and then about the complaining and the desire for meat instead. The Lord finally "gave in" and sent them quail - but then sent a plague "while the meat was still between their teeth" and they died! (See Numbers 11) So again, we talked about being thankful for what we have, eating what is set before us, we prayed for the many who go to bed hungry every night, without even rice and beans to satisfy them, and we talked about preparing to be missionaries.
The next morning I felt the Holy Spirit prompt me to talk to Joshua about spiritual nourishment. As he had gone for about 24 hours without food, and felt weak in his body and unable to function well, so our spirits become weak without the nourishment of God's Word and the seeking of HIs Presence in our lives on a daily basis. We talked about this for a while and a light really seemed to go off with him.
So... Fabio and I decided that we will continue to do this once a week, at least for this season, to reinforce the lesson. I think we will call it "Manna Day"! :)
Comments
Aug. 12, 2008 - Beans....
Posted by Longmom from the Shed
My hubby grandpa had black bread every Saturday to remind him where his family came from. Nothing but black bread and water all day Saturday.... I think it a great idea... Poor kids !!! AN hey i eat brussels sprouts almost everyday !! They are great!!!
Aug. 14, 2008 - <em>Untitled Comment</em>
Posted by fivelittlefroggies
Great idea! My kids would hate the idea, but I just might try it anyway.
Edited by fivelittlefroggies on Aug. 14, 2008 at 11:26 AM
Aug. 15, 2008 - mummydeals.blogspot.com
Posted by Anonymous
That's really cool story, Elizabeth and a great reminder to be thankful! We are soooo blessed. I'm glad I "ran into" your other blog today. f you get a chance check out my new blog about being frugal and saving more so we can give more. It's at www.mummydeals.blogspot.com
Aug. 16, 2008 - Amy Carmichael
Posted by Phyllis
I recently found Amy Carmichael's Japan book online (free!). You would probably love it. There are a few places where she talks about the food, and they just made me smile.
