Posted in Here Comes the Bride

I have become completely overwhelmed and wayyyyyyyy behind on my life. 

Dh and I (finally) sat down last night and had a pow-wow and it was determined that my priorities are outta whack (again).  In our "discussion", dh felt that I am spending wayyy too much time on the computer and while my house isn't bad, the kids and he are suffering (his words - ouch!) - I am using the computer as a way of escape (his words again - double ouch!).  Whether I agree completely with him or not doesn't matter.  I am overwhelmed and I have to try it his way until I can see clearly enough how to fix it differently and get my priorities back on track. 

Dh's hours have changed considerably and he is now home almost exclusively through the day, working almost exclusively nights with long, long hours (and being retail and with Christmas around the corner it is only going to get worse before it gets better).  From his observations, he feels that my time could be better spent OFF the computer for a bit.  I am gone every afternoon with practice or games and so after I feed the kids and get them to bed I am back on the computer until he gets home very, very, late at night so I'm not sleeping enough nor am I dealing with the discipline issues with the kids nor are we schooling properly.  We were actually supposed to re-start our school semester 2 weeks ago but I have been dragging my feet with preparations. 

I've let the computer suck me away and dh is asking that I go on a computer fast to see if we can turn this around and get my priorities straight again. 

BTW I kinda do this with everything --- I give tooo much of myself (4H, soccer, coop, volunteering at church, Women's Bible study -- you name it and I've given too much) and I don't always keep God's priorities straight and then there I am with my family suffering and my dh feeling left out.  Not good and I'm working on that but I am so grateful God gave me a dh who can see where I am and so lovingly guides me back.  My dh knows how many connections that I have via the net & it so pained him to tell me to take a computer fast but neither he or I want this to be an Eve situation and because of my past history he is seeing all the signs sooooooo........... 

out of obedience I am taking a bit of a computer vacation to hopefully break this cycle.  My hope is that you keep your priorities straight too and hopefully, I will be back soon.

Posted in Here Comes the Bride

My dh works retail and from now until after Christmas it is well -- 'tis the season (to NOT be jolly because hours are long, people are mean and the store is crazy).  He calls home last night (he usually works nights and he is finally working some daytime hours) and he is checking to see if I need anything (in other words - "I'm really hungry.  I've had a hard day and if you didn't cook, I don't want to cook either so do I need to stop and pick up something?" -- No, this is not a nightly event but the kids have be soooo disobedient lately that actually feeding them meals is going to start turning into a privilege!! ~ maybe).  I tell him, "No, I don't need anything just come on home.  I've got something started", then I turn to my boys and tell them that papa's on his way home and he has had a really hard day, then I ask, "What can we do to make it better for him?". 

They start running around picking up the house and then they decide that he needs a massage so they start gathering things to give him a massage when he walks in the door.  It was hysterical!  They ask me to make a cold drink and get the pretzels.  They argue over what sort of music should be playing.  They decide that my lotion smells too girly and they get out the tiger balm -- I guess real men smell like Tigers!   They have everything ready for him when he walks in the door including lit candles around the room. 

Oh and I'm sure my dh enjoyed it because he slept soooo good last night -- I know because he snored all night!