I know, I am talking about trust over on my The Kitchen on Chickadee Lane blog today, too. That trust is the most important type of trust: Trust in God.
It’s also important to be able to trust our spouses. It’s important for children to be able to trust their parents, and for parents to be able to trust their teenagers. Once trust is broken, it’s nearly impossible to regain it. I know, from experience.
Trust is an important pillar in relationships, and the lack of it can lead to negativity, conflict, insecurity, depression, and anxiety. If your relationship is lacking trust, it’s important to work with your partner to build it, so that you can let your guard down and be vulnerable with each other. Very Well Mind
Here are 19 ways to rebuild trust in a relationship:
- Make a commitment
- Both partners take responsibility
- Refine you communication style
- Accept repair attempts
- Set a time to talk about the betrayal
- Set time for a non-negotiable weekly marriage meeting
- Redefine new marriage rules
- Create a culture of appreciation
- Stop all contact with the affair partner
- Share any necessary or unplanned encounters with the affair partner
- Don’t gossip about or trash talk your partner to others
- Tell the true story of the betrayal
- Create an Environment of proactive transparency
- Understand the power of vulnerability
- Evaluate your questions
- Evaluate your answers
- Take time to forgive
- Seek professional help
- Plan, plan, plan
Rebuilding trust takes time, commitment, willingness to forgive, and an ongoing effort to prioritize the relationship, but the returns far exceed the investment. Remember, both partners play a role in rebuilding trust. The tips outlined above provide simple actions on the journey to strengthen understanding, communication, friendship, and healing. ~Choosing Therapy
An affair is not the only way to break trust with your partner; I just wanted to make that clear.